It's been awhile. I checked my archives: With the exception of last month, I wrote at least one post a month for the past three years. Which means this two-month gap of not blogging was the longest I've gone without writing. Not even a draft, not even a written-but-unposted piece.
There is a lot I could write about in absence: the continuing journey of voice, ethnicity, and ministry; D at long last entering his last month of school; his job offer and the short-lived hope of not being long-distance; the slump of post-Mark Camp-is-the-school-year-over-yet? and finding energy to keep going amid that; etc. etc. etc.
But today, I will write about home, Sacramento-home, specifically. This blog has had its share of displacement angst and even its own "transition" tag, chronicling my move from Stockton to here. And while I've been here for two years come August, and as much as I love Sacramento as a city, it wasn't till two weeks ago that I really found a home. Long story short, I moved in with two friends from church and everything changed. The rest it's given for my heart, my subconscious, my emotions is amazing. I didn't realize how much I had wound up in a year and a half of non-ideal housing. I never really relaxed in that first condo I lived in, as differing values, life stages, and resentment built up into angst. The room I rented for six months was in a house that was never really mine, and I always felt like talking to my housemates then was making small talk with women who would never understand my lifestyle.
I think our lives of following Jesus involves some level of displacement. But these days, I am so grateful for God's grace that says, "Not right now." That says for this next season, let your heart rest and feel at home. Settle and unwind and find comfort in your physical dwelling. Another day, you will be on the move again. Another day, you will be placed in a place you don't fit. Every day, remember that this world is not your home. Yet for now, right now, grace comes in the form of a home-space, a physical belonging. And I don't know how to explain it to anyone enough, because I think it takes feeling never-quite-at-home for a long period of time to really, really appreciate home.
Home is a lot of things. It is having a place where the chopsticks and spoons belong, instead of having your Chinese soup spoons be awkwardly put on the counter because your roommate doesn't know where to put it. It is having a shelf for board games again, instead of stacking then in a box that has to move to different corners of the your room as you shuffle it around. It is actually unpacking every box, finding a place for each thing and finally throwing out the items without one instead of letting it all sit in a box you shuffle through as needed. It is finding the compromise in chores, groceries, and sharing instead of inwardly rolling your eyes when someone else's preference trumps yours. Home is no shoes inside the house. Lots of rice in the pantry but also pasta and canned vegetables. A sauce cabinet with Lee Kum Kee, soy sauce, dark soy sauce, chili oil and sesame oil but a spice cabinet with cumin, cinnamon, and Lawry's. Walking with your roommate to your friend's house two streets down. Carpooling to church and offering your home-cooked leftovers. Home is eating at the dining table and wanting your roommates to join, it's leaving your door open all the time and not trying to avoid your roommates.
Sometimes, you best know something by what it's juxtaposed against (can you even use that word like that?). These days I'm realizing how little everywhere else felt like home now that I have this to compare it to. And I'm so, so grateful for the grace in this season and moment.
